You’re in a rut.
Maybe you were dumped by your dream girl. Fired from your job. Or fail again and again at your personal, career or life goals. Nothing seems to go your way. As losses piles on in a never-ending cycle of misery… You ask yourself, “Why even wake up in the morning?” When you’re in a slump, life can seem hopeless. You may be so buried in self doubt, depression or despair that you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. But what if there was a step-by-step process to dig yourself out?
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“Did you live under the kitchen table?”
This is what people ask when I tell them I lived in a dining room for a year. It’s understandable. Such a scenario is, well, obviously uncommon. Likely more uncommon is that I consciously chose the dining room out of 3 other damn good, or at least normal, living choices. In other words, I had options. “But why on earth would someone purposefully live in a dining room?” you say.
It’s happening again.
You’re following your breath in meditation. Breathe in. Breathe out. You think you’re doing it right. Your mind seems to clear. But, you can’t ignore one teeny, tiny issue… Your eyes are heavy. And while you seem to be on breath nine, you’re not so sure. Maybe you’re on breath eight? It’s getting hard to focus and your head nods downward. Your neck snaps back up. Now, you’re fighting to stay awake. You don’t want to blow your meditation session. You were doing so good! But you just can’t win. You give into the zzzzzz’s and fall asleep in meditation. Dammit. There goes another lost session. You’re frustrated. Realizing you’ll likely never gain the calm, clarity and peace of meditation if you can’t stay awake. Maybe you should just give up?
You get anxious sometimes.
Your mind bounces from idea to idea, and sometimes it seems like you can’t turn it off. You desperately want to find a way to calm yourself. And while all your friends and the media rave about meditation, you’re not sure if it’s your thing. What meditation alternatives are there?
You’ve been meditating for awhile.
You feel the benefits. You’re calmer, more clear-headed, and experience a growing sense of peace. But you want to take your game to the next level. You’ve heard that mindfulness can help, but aren’t sure how to get started.
You’re seething.
You just got into a massive argument with a family member. And now you storm out of the room. How could he say such things? How could he be such a douchebag? Does he even care about you at all? You slam the door behind you. Now alone in your room, your blood is on fire. You’re so angry you don’t know what to do. You just want to scream.
Dudes say it all the time.
"You gotta live in the moment.” “If you’re having a bad day, just be present.” These cliche statements are easy to say. And for those who proudly declare them, it probably makes them feel cool, or like they know something you don’t. But what do these sayings actually mean?
I’d like to take a moment to remind you that your life is awesome. Seriously.
“But dude, how could you personally know my life is awesome? You have no idea of who I am or my situation.” True. But I can make some guesses based on the fact you’re reading this blog.
You’ve tried to kick caffeine. But damn.
It’s frickin hard. Sometimes you go a few days without coffee. You start to feel confident until you have a restless night. You wake up, less than 5 hours of sleep under your belt, feeling like a zombie. And worse, you have a ton of work and are overwhelmed by the thought of completing it without caffeine. You’re so exhausted. Just one cup of coffee… That’s all you need to energize yourself and knock out your huge workload. But if you give in now, you’ll feel hopeless…ashamed you lack self control. If you can’t make it through a day without caffeine now, will you ever?
What will people think?
What will you do next? You couldn’t possibly give up. Could you? No, you must push on. Only the weak, only losers would give up now. But not you. You are not a failure! You must project an image of success. You wouldn’t dare let your friends, family, and colleagues question whether you “got it together”. But it’s getting harder to ignore the feelings of self-doubt. Deep inside you know that little voice is on to something. But you choose to ignore it. You stare at your reflection in the mirror and think, “I can do this!” But can you? And more importantly, should you? |
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